Letters to the Editor 01-14-1999
July 28, 2016 at 4:25 p.m.
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- Bereavement - Surveyor Says Thanks - Good Samaritan - Train Ride - Excessive Force - Train Ride
Bereavement
Editor, Times-Union:As the bereavement counselor at Hospice, I have become aware that the loss of a loved one to death has many effects on a person. There are many feelings and emotional reactions to a loss, which can cause confusion. Some people feel that if they put the thoughts of their loss out of their minds and keep themselves very busy they will get better. Others just try to "be strong" and not let their feelings show. Some people think that it just takes time before they will feel better. But none of these approaches help a person in dealing with their grief.
Grief is also accompanied by many practical problems as well as social, philosophical and spiritual problems. Although a person may not receive or expect to receive answers to all the problems, he/she should have the opportunity to voice the questions. There are answers and solutions to many of the problems in grief. When time is taken to do the problem solving, the occurrences of unresolved grief are reduced.
The facts are that the longer a person delays dealing with the feelings of grief, the more difficult their bereavement process. That is why we offer bereavement care (support) groups to our patients' families and the general public who have experienced losses through death.
There are many different ways that people experience grief because each person's relationship with the one who died is unique. Even within the same family people will have differing experiences. This causes much confusion and sometimes a misunderstanding between family members or friends. Also, men and women deal with their grief differently. Again, this can cause problems because "you aren't grieving like I am."
In the bereavement care group we look at the purpose and value of a support group. We talk about what makes it difficult to grieve. We learn the four tasks of mourning and how they apply to our bereavement process. There is discussion about normal grief reactions. We explore special problems people may encounter in grief, and solutions for those problems. There is a session on stress management and its effects of grieving. We also talk about "Faith and Mourning" and the ever present problems of depression and loneliness.
The next Bereavement Care Group begins on January 21 and meets each Thursday evening at 7 p.m. until February 25. Anyone who has an interest in being part of this group is welcome to come. Call 372-7810 to register your interest.
Peter E. Albertson, KCH HomeCare, Warsaw
Surveyor Says Thanks
Editor, Times-Union:Recently my office and our subcontractors were involved in maintenance of a county regulated drain near Boggs Industrial Park. This subsurface drain pipe is partially plugged with sediment deep beneath the railroad.
N.E.W. Plumbing and Heating was contracted by my office to assist us in clearing this pipe by using their high-pressure water jetting system. My hat is off to Charlie of N.E.W. for braving the elements that day. It was extremely cold and snowing. To make a long story short, we ran out of water.
I called Mayor Ernie Wiggins for possible assistance in getting a fresh supply of water to the site. Keep in mind that working conditions that day were miserable!
Ernie responded immediately with help. Literally within minutes, Kenny Shepherd and Jon Swoverland of Fire Station #1 provided us with a supply of water to the site.
I just want to say thank you to Fire Station #1, to Michelle for co-ordinating all the phone calls and to Ernie for all the help.
We owe you one! Thanks again!
Dick Kemper, Kosciusko County Surveyor
Good Samaritan
Editor, Times-Union:I wish to thank the lady that found my checkbook in Owens parking lot and returned it to the office to be turned back to me. I don't know your name and hope you read this special thank you note in the paper. May God bless you.
Dick Engle , Winona Lake
Train Ride
Editor, Times-Union:AMTRAK's train #30, the Capitol Limited, departs Chicago each evening at 8:15 p.m. headed for Washington, D.C., 775 miles and 20 hours later. One boards at Elkhart at 11:45 p.m. and arrives at Union Station at 3 p.m. the next day. There were 178 passengers in the two sleepers, three coaches, one lounge and one diner making up the train. Thirteen attendants, three conductors and two engineers attended to their needs.
A young girl whom I met in the concession area had boarded AMTRAK's Empire Builder in Portland, Ore., transferred to the Capitol Limited in Chicago and planned to meet friends from Virginia at Union Station in Washington, with whom she would spend the holidays. A lady from Detroit had taken Greyhound to Toledo where she boarded the train. At Union Station, she will take Train #19 to Atlanta, Ga. Another lady was headed for Sebring for the winter via train #91, AMTRAK's Florida train, which she will board at Union Station.
AMTRAK's Superliners provide second-level smooth riding, and the lounge car with its floor-to-roof windows gives an expanse of passing landscape. A magician was working his way through the coaches entertaining children and adults. Movies are shown in the lounge before midnight.
True, it takes a little longer by rail, but stretched out in a chair which really reclines with a comfortable leg rest and an AMTRAK pillow under your head, one can sleep the miles away, and the knowledge that there will be some dollars left in the wallet upon arrival makes the extra hours worthwhile.
Berniece Dwyer, Milford
Excessive Force
Editor, Times-Union:My editorial is concerning excessive force and brutality and harrassment after a person has been subdued and handcuffed. I have suffered from these from the time of Mike Hodges. I personally can't conceive what an officer is thinking of when he is going to put this person in their place. Police brutality is not a law of the states. It is wrong and any officer who uses it should be disciplined and removed from the police department. Now this is the way Communism, Hitlerism, Indianism and Chinaism was started. There were Christians all over the world suffering for their faith. Now my dad was a deputy sheriff and in 40 years he hit not one person. A person who uses excessive force or harrassment is not sure of himself. He is a coward. I don't have much respect for police who hide behind a badge to be evil. If this officer was not a coward he wouldn't use all this excessive force. Father, mother and all the other people should make clear to me exactly how you will feel and your opinions will be rewarded. Write your comments and address your call to Dewey M. Conley 215 E. Center St., Warsaw, Apt. 3, an independent preacher of 45 years. I have never been arrested or convicted. All police officers of all people should have tolerance of people with problems.
Dewey Conley, Warsaw
Train Ride
Editor, Times-Union:AMTRAK's train #30, the Capitol Limited, departs Chicago each evening at 8:15 p.m. headed for Washington, D.C., 775 miles and 20 hours later. One boards at Elkhart at 11:45 p.m. and arrives at Union Station at 3 p.m. the next day. There were 178 passengers in the two sleepers, three coaches, one lounge and one diner making up the train. Thirteen attendants, three conductors and two engineers attended to their needs.
A young girl whom I met in the concession area had boarded AMTRAK's Empire Builder in Portland, Ore., transferred to the Capitol Limited in Chicago and planned to meet friends from Virginia at Union Station in Washington, with whom she would spend the holidays. A lady from Detroit had taken Greyhound to Toledo where she boarded the train. At Union Station, she will take Train #19 to Atlanta, Ga. Another lady was headed for Sebring for the winter via train #91, AMTRAK's Florida train, which she will board at Union Station.
AMTRAK's Superliners provide second-level smooth riding, and the lounge car with its floor-to-roof windows gives an expanse of passing landscape. A magician was working his way through the coaches entertaining children and adults. Movies are shown in the lounge before midnight.
True, it takes a little longer by rail, but stretched out in a chair which really reclines with a comfortable leg rest and an AMTRAK pillow under your head, one can sleep the miles away, and the knowledge that there will be some dollars left in the wallet upon arrival makes the extra hours worthwhile.
Berniece Dwyer, Milford
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Bereavement
Editor, Times-Union:As the bereavement counselor at Hospice, I have become aware that the loss of a loved one to death has many effects on a person. There are many feelings and emotional reactions to a loss, which can cause confusion. Some people feel that if they put the thoughts of their loss out of their minds and keep themselves very busy they will get better. Others just try to "be strong" and not let their feelings show. Some people think that it just takes time before they will feel better. But none of these approaches help a person in dealing with their grief.
Grief is also accompanied by many practical problems as well as social, philosophical and spiritual problems. Although a person may not receive or expect to receive answers to all the problems, he/she should have the opportunity to voice the questions. There are answers and solutions to many of the problems in grief. When time is taken to do the problem solving, the occurrences of unresolved grief are reduced.
The facts are that the longer a person delays dealing with the feelings of grief, the more difficult their bereavement process. That is why we offer bereavement care (support) groups to our patients' families and the general public who have experienced losses through death.
There are many different ways that people experience grief because each person's relationship with the one who died is unique. Even within the same family people will have differing experiences. This causes much confusion and sometimes a misunderstanding between family members or friends. Also, men and women deal with their grief differently. Again, this can cause problems because "you aren't grieving like I am."
In the bereavement care group we look at the purpose and value of a support group. We talk about what makes it difficult to grieve. We learn the four tasks of mourning and how they apply to our bereavement process. There is discussion about normal grief reactions. We explore special problems people may encounter in grief, and solutions for those problems. There is a session on stress management and its effects of grieving. We also talk about "Faith and Mourning" and the ever present problems of depression and loneliness.
The next Bereavement Care Group begins on January 21 and meets each Thursday evening at 7 p.m. until February 25. Anyone who has an interest in being part of this group is welcome to come. Call 372-7810 to register your interest.
Peter E. Albertson, KCH HomeCare, Warsaw
Surveyor Says Thanks
Editor, Times-Union:Recently my office and our subcontractors were involved in maintenance of a county regulated drain near Boggs Industrial Park. This subsurface drain pipe is partially plugged with sediment deep beneath the railroad.
N.E.W. Plumbing and Heating was contracted by my office to assist us in clearing this pipe by using their high-pressure water jetting system. My hat is off to Charlie of N.E.W. for braving the elements that day. It was extremely cold and snowing. To make a long story short, we ran out of water.
I called Mayor Ernie Wiggins for possible assistance in getting a fresh supply of water to the site. Keep in mind that working conditions that day were miserable!
Ernie responded immediately with help. Literally within minutes, Kenny Shepherd and Jon Swoverland of Fire Station #1 provided us with a supply of water to the site.
I just want to say thank you to Fire Station #1, to Michelle for co-ordinating all the phone calls and to Ernie for all the help.
We owe you one! Thanks again!
Dick Kemper, Kosciusko County Surveyor
Good Samaritan
Editor, Times-Union:I wish to thank the lady that found my checkbook in Owens parking lot and returned it to the office to be turned back to me. I don't know your name and hope you read this special thank you note in the paper. May God bless you.
Dick Engle , Winona Lake
Train Ride
Editor, Times-Union:AMTRAK's train #30, the Capitol Limited, departs Chicago each evening at 8:15 p.m. headed for Washington, D.C., 775 miles and 20 hours later. One boards at Elkhart at 11:45 p.m. and arrives at Union Station at 3 p.m. the next day. There were 178 passengers in the two sleepers, three coaches, one lounge and one diner making up the train. Thirteen attendants, three conductors and two engineers attended to their needs.
A young girl whom I met in the concession area had boarded AMTRAK's Empire Builder in Portland, Ore., transferred to the Capitol Limited in Chicago and planned to meet friends from Virginia at Union Station in Washington, with whom she would spend the holidays. A lady from Detroit had taken Greyhound to Toledo where she boarded the train. At Union Station, she will take Train #19 to Atlanta, Ga. Another lady was headed for Sebring for the winter via train #91, AMTRAK's Florida train, which she will board at Union Station.
AMTRAK's Superliners provide second-level smooth riding, and the lounge car with its floor-to-roof windows gives an expanse of passing landscape. A magician was working his way through the coaches entertaining children and adults. Movies are shown in the lounge before midnight.
True, it takes a little longer by rail, but stretched out in a chair which really reclines with a comfortable leg rest and an AMTRAK pillow under your head, one can sleep the miles away, and the knowledge that there will be some dollars left in the wallet upon arrival makes the extra hours worthwhile.
Berniece Dwyer, Milford
Excessive Force
Editor, Times-Union:My editorial is concerning excessive force and brutality and harrassment after a person has been subdued and handcuffed. I have suffered from these from the time of Mike Hodges. I personally can't conceive what an officer is thinking of when he is going to put this person in their place. Police brutality is not a law of the states. It is wrong and any officer who uses it should be disciplined and removed from the police department. Now this is the way Communism, Hitlerism, Indianism and Chinaism was started. There were Christians all over the world suffering for their faith. Now my dad was a deputy sheriff and in 40 years he hit not one person. A person who uses excessive force or harrassment is not sure of himself. He is a coward. I don't have much respect for police who hide behind a badge to be evil. If this officer was not a coward he wouldn't use all this excessive force. Father, mother and all the other people should make clear to me exactly how you will feel and your opinions will be rewarded. Write your comments and address your call to Dewey M. Conley 215 E. Center St., Warsaw, Apt. 3, an independent preacher of 45 years. I have never been arrested or convicted. All police officers of all people should have tolerance of people with problems.
Dewey Conley, Warsaw
Train Ride
Editor, Times-Union:AMTRAK's train #30, the Capitol Limited, departs Chicago each evening at 8:15 p.m. headed for Washington, D.C., 775 miles and 20 hours later. One boards at Elkhart at 11:45 p.m. and arrives at Union Station at 3 p.m. the next day. There were 178 passengers in the two sleepers, three coaches, one lounge and one diner making up the train. Thirteen attendants, three conductors and two engineers attended to their needs.
A young girl whom I met in the concession area had boarded AMTRAK's Empire Builder in Portland, Ore., transferred to the Capitol Limited in Chicago and planned to meet friends from Virginia at Union Station in Washington, with whom she would spend the holidays. A lady from Detroit had taken Greyhound to Toledo where she boarded the train. At Union Station, she will take Train #19 to Atlanta, Ga. Another lady was headed for Sebring for the winter via train #91, AMTRAK's Florida train, which she will board at Union Station.
AMTRAK's Superliners provide second-level smooth riding, and the lounge car with its floor-to-roof windows gives an expanse of passing landscape. A magician was working his way through the coaches entertaining children and adults. Movies are shown in the lounge before midnight.
True, it takes a little longer by rail, but stretched out in a chair which really reclines with a comfortable leg rest and an AMTRAK pillow under your head, one can sleep the miles away, and the knowledge that there will be some dollars left in the wallet upon arrival makes the extra hours worthwhile.
Berniece Dwyer, Milford
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